* I like it when the server introduces themselves and tells us the specials and then lets us be.
* I like it when the server knows to give us time to read the menu and doesn't rush us. If we need more time, I like it when the server says no problem and then stays away until she can see that we all have our menus down.
* I like it when they can recommend items on the menu.
* I like it when they ask if we have any questions about the menu.
* I like it when they keep our glasses full.
* I like it when they check on us every once and awhile - but not too often.
* I like it when they make sure we have plenty of napkins and water, utensils and dressings. etc.
* I like it if they ask if we want dessert, but don't push the issue.
* I like it when they are nice and friendly but I hate it when they try to sit in our booth.
Other suggestions: Bring extra bread, extra glasses of soda, or a soda to go at the end of the meal or little extras. My family love waiters / waitresses that remember them, that take time to ask about how they are doing, talks to the little kids, complements how cute the kid is... blah, blah, blah. It keeps them coming back again and again and they always tip well.